I've been dating this girl which I knew for some time now but we recently got close and started hooking up (Thanks to Alex and pwf/firetext skills which changed the whole game plan). My intention with her is long term dating although but I've not said anything like that to her and just going with flow. I'm trying to maintain a state where she keeps a higher interest in me than I do. Now she does mention a bunch of best friends and who are mostly guys. I've met one of her male "best friends" who has a gf but idk that he just couldnt date her and ended up being with someone else cause he was a bit touchy with her lol. She recently out of blue mentioned another one of her guy best friend and she was like "we used to talk every night over call and sometimes over video call he would sing me a song and put me to sleep too but I realize I had to stop it cause i couldnt sleep without then then". This guy was also significantly more better looking than me too, I did not say anything to her statement and just said sounds like a fun guy. Why is she telling me this? and are these best friends usually threat as we all know there is no such a thing as a guy best friend. I guess I shouldn't question her about this correct? she obv communicates with this best friend all the time so how do I approach this? i dont mind her having guy friends but we know this isnt just a friend
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There might not even be a specific reason why she's sharing. Just randomly talking. What is the evidence the guy isnt just a friend?
Personally, im cool with my gf having male friends but there are some common sense bounddaries, like no hanging out wiht them in a private environment and stuff like that.
However, you can only give such boundaries if you guys are in a relationshhip and not just casually hooking up. Is that the case? have you had the relationship talk?
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Thanks man. There is no evidence but that guy randomly calls her and has a history talking to her every night and they way she gets excited telling about him but him her best friend. and she does have a lot of dude best friends
same here i'd be cool with her having male friends but i have not set any boundaries. we have been going on dates (i have been persistently chasing her) for 1-2 years but we recently got more serious and started hooking up. Yes that's the case, when is a good time to do a relationship talk like a time (that's something i struggle with- i dont want bring it up and have bring this up?)
till now i have been seeing/hooking with multiple girls and even dated a few but we never reached a point of a fully commited relationship hence i am not sure when to lead things to a relationships
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Yea until you are in a commited relationship, you really cant "lay out the boundaries". Especially when youre banging up multiple girls
You can try playfully pointing out that this guy is trying to fuck her. But the delivery needs to be very playful, like you dodnt really care.