Back story: I never use OLD. I’m pretty attractive in person, so usually just roll with nightgame which gets me plenty of results. First time on tinder, matched this girl, she’s 18 I’m 20. Moved the convo to text. I generally have a no nonsense approach, so I try to get straight to the point and ask her out. She gives some resistance and a “maybe”. Since this conversation, she has actually messaged me to reignite the conversation, but I don’t know where to lead it - do I just persist and ask her out again, or try to talk to her more and THEN ask her out AGAIN....
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Yeah there’s defo truth to what you’re saying.
I just don’t think she was interested enough to reengage though. She’s thrown an objection, I’ve given a pragmatic response along the lines of “we can work around it”.
One could argue that ghosting her would perhaps come across as being dissuaded/disheartened or butthurt by the objection though, essentially I’ve just acknowledged it and given a neutral response. A positive response, I.e. chasing further for another date, would give her too much power. A negative response, I.e. getting upset, would display weakness on my part. My neutral response displays indifference. What do you think?
I’ve gone and responded with a slight variation of Samay R’s message. Since the situation wasn’t optimal, I think it was a damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
I’m not going to be text buddies with her, and if she does come back with a date, odds are by then I’ll have met someone else anyway so she’ll get binned.
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I don't think she's given an objection, a logistical obstacle sure so your response is fine as you're trying to solve it. If you don't want to look butthurt by leaving girls on read, can just like her message- acknowledges it with lowest investment possible. Still a slight validation strip
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Yeah you’re right, I appreciate your advice. Logistical obstacle is a better description. But would that mean it’s still worth keeping my hand in it, considering she’s reached out again?
Albeit talking about some random shit idc about (my work colleague’s/her best friend’s breakup)... like do I bother engaging with her to keep her on good terms, or take as she just doesn’t wanna see me.
I don’t want to be text buddies, but I might still have to engage with her to keep us current?
Images below, what do you think. @Samay R @Bob Rao
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