Have had plenty of first dates where I closed in the past. But just had my 3rd date this week in a row where I didn’t close. Confidence taking a bit of a beating wondering if I’m doing something wrong. One of the dates I honestly didn’t want to close because the vibe was off. But tonight, with the 3rd girl this week, we made out, I put her hand on my dick (didn’t take it out though). Touched her a lot. Almost had too good of a connection. She described all my qualities and looks when talking about what she likes in a guy. Many more positive vibes. We got very physical. Out of nowhere she said she said she to leave because she promised to meet a friend (it was almost 1am on Saturday). Don’t know if it’s a legitimate excuse. I also asked her “I’m having a great time with you.. but is there something on your mind? You seem a bit hesitant” like Alex says in a video you can say to a girl on the first date. She just said just said “No nothing on my mind”. I know it’s impossible for you guys to know without much context. But why do girls not sleep with you on the first date? The chances of all 3 my dates this week being on their period must be slim. So what more reasons are there? Is my game be too weak? Is it because they're bratty? Do they not want to be seen as sluts? Can they think you’re “too good” of a guy so they don’t want to “ruin it” by sleeping with you on the first date? Seriously. The amount I vibed with 2 of these 3 girls this week is actually unreal. Lots of playful teasing, ton of laughter, they showed so good body language, strong eye contact, getting physical, they’re complimenting me (either my qualities or my looks or something else) and everything is just so positive throughout thse two dates. They tell me how fun they had. And one of the girl has texted me super eagerly and soft closing me on a second date. I genuinely don’t get why sex haven’t happened this week? At least with 1 of these 2 chicks I’m talking about. I think I’m a socially calibrated guy and I don’t think I did anything wrong. It only makes sense that sex would've happened on these kinds of busy (in my mind at least). But maybe girls are different. Curious ot hear your thoughts on why girls don’t have sex on the first date.
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2 hours is definitely too long to go without making any moves. If the girl is already at your house keep it under 1 hour. Alex has a good video about escalation on his youtube channel. Also I suggest escalating verbally before going for the kiss, imo this helps moving it towards sex.
With that date #2 girl I would have first taken off my shirt and then tried to take off her crop-top while kissing. If she would have stopped I would disengage completely from her (maybe even move away a bit) and then start checking my phone while mostly ignoring her. If this wouldn't pull her back to me after a few minutes I would then try to disqualify her from being my girlfriend. I usually do this by telling her about how she's too shy and boring while I'm too crazy for her. What usually happens is she will either qualify herself to you or she will agree. Either way after this you can try escalating again. It should be easier because she will now either be more afraid of you leaving her or just view you as a ONS.
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Verbally escalating is good, I usually always do that. Forgot to mention it. I've seen the video. If I remember correctly, Alex says it's good to wait until the girl has good body language. So the 1-2 hour thing is definitely long but by that they've usually turned their entire body towards me, they don't have their legs crossed etc. How do you balance between escalating under 1 hour and waiting until she has good body language?
Thank you for the tips with the girl #2! That's actually genius. Can't believe this is free. I barely know any of these push-pull strategies man. Will do this with my next date for sure. The shirt thing is interesting though, I did take off my shirt for the first date and she ended up leaving 5-10 minutes after lol. It was getting late way past her bedtime but still