I met this girl on an outdoorsy trip. Got her number a week or so after meeting, we went axe throwing, the date was great, we went to my place after to watch a movie. She was hesitant to come on my bed with me to cuddle, she eventually did and I got a little too handsy, she didn't want to fuck. Fair enough. Later, when she was leaving, I gave her a hug and I kinda gave her the look to kiss and she pushed me away. I don't think she was comfortable that's why, could be wrong tho. (She was displaying high interest before the date and during axe throwing). What I want is y'all's advice on how I should play this. I fucked up and acted needy, even being pushy with her coming to my bed to cuddle. Absolutely embarrassing on my part. She still seems semi- interested, but I think I need to back off a bit. Or, maybe I should be straight with her somehow. I really don't know, it's been a while since I've dated. Also, I believe she didn't answer me asking to hang out this weekend on purpose. I shouldn't have made myself this available to her lol convo starts with the "I sure had a nice time last night ends with the painting joke because she paints for her job* * also the banana joke wasnt sexual, she said she doesnt like anything banana smh * texting pics are attached from everything post date till now
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"Down to hangout if you are" - you are implying that you arent sure if she is down to meet you. As mentioned in the guides here, ASSUME she is happy to meet a high value man like yourself. When she said she doesn't have any plans you can mention your snow boarding then propose a Sunday meetup (or Friday after her snowboarding perhaps). You got her basic schedule at that point so now is the time to ask the question. She completely dodged it though which is not a good sign.
You could have some more small talk then bring up the hangout topic again or just call her out on it. Something like "I get it, you're nervous about meeting me again. Let's grab some drinks so we can loosen up. But no drunk axe throwing!". If you got other girls or dont care about meeting her this weekend then dont even mention it again until next week. That will show you have options in her mind but it may cause the chat and connection to stagnate.
You dont need to feel bad for trying to get handsy. At least she knows you're not there to be her friend. Whether she will fuck or not has so many variables. Who knows what was going on in her head last date. I think you should of escalated on the couch first while watching a movie. Much smoother than a proposition to come to cuddle on the bed imo. Try to get a make out session going on the couch and then it should proceed to the bedroom. That's my flow at least.
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Appreciate the advice. I have no other girls im talking to rn so I would like to make this work if possible. I think she didnt fuck because she wasnt fully comfortable due to the last guy she dated living in the same dorm as me. Probably brought up not the greatest memories. Anyways, ill probably say something along the lines of what you suggested.