hey, when I go out with a girl I meet on tinder I know the chance of me having sex with her on the first date is extremely high because I have a good in-person game and I know how to escalate and stuff, but the chance of me getting a second date (to have sex with her again) is less than 0%. I installed tinder 2 weeks ago and have 34 matches, and out of those 34 matches got 2 dates that both ended up in sex. -The first girl we had car sex day 21 december, I texted the following morning saying I liked our night and I wanted round 2 and she was on board and even suggested I spent one night at her place but eventually she flaked on me. I wished her new years yesterday and she said she was feeling guilty she flaked on me and that it wasn't anything about me, and I played it off saying I wasn't affected by it and I knew it was a casual thing so it was chill and the conversation ended there. I feel like she found someone better. -The second girl we had sex on new years, she texted me the following morning saying "good morning" and I answered back saying "good morning i liked our night" and she was doubting a bit I liked it I dont know why, and i said i was interested in round 2 and she was like "ahaha are you interested in a second time?" and i said "are you not?" and she ghosted. I feel like they just want the validation of knowing I would come back for more but then they don't actually do it. I've always been a bit insecure about my looks so I thought if it had anything to do with that but logically would they have sex with me if they didn't find me attractive? doesn't make much sense. I've also thought about that maybe I'm bad at sex. Tbh I've never had a girlfriend and so I never had too much practice. I feel like I'm improving but I dont have many chances to do so because it always has to be with a new girl. this is big problem because it didn't happen only with these 2 girls. like 5 more it has happened any one has any tip on how to change the situation?
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its somewhat instinctive and what i think helps the most is like being sure you will make out / have sex with her because she is into you. this comes with practice i guess.
i try to find excuse to touch hand and then hold it there a bit play with the hand and hold hands . if you hold hands for a bit its game over. and its good because its a good escalation from there you can kiss. but there are a million ways its practice.
but idk man all that work from photos, talking to a bunch of them, passing shit tests, getting the logistics right just to fuck once and never again its kind of unsatisfying but maybe its just something that happens to me. ive paused tinder for now though
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ah thats for going for the kiss. then if you're at the house you just need to go for neck kisses and u have sex easy. ideally u want to be in a spot or close to a spot where u can have sex and invite her there ofc. for example first girl i talked about in my post, I parked the car, we went to walk a bit togheter and talk, i did the hand thing i created tension and we kissed and i said we should go to the car and she agreed and then in the car i said lets go to the back it has more space and she sucked D
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nice, seems like you got it down, for the hand thing, are you doing palm reading or what do you wait for / technique you use?