Hi, I'm 2 hours south of Atlanta and I'm hoping my particular situation could be helped. I'm a 26 year old guy (5'10 170lb) and I wouldn't say I'm ugly or anything, but I'm kind of a loner introvert and never been in a relationship. I personally want a long term relationship with a nerdy girl that I find attractive and who's into one or more of my own interests (anime, gaming or drawing). I'm on the 3 main apps but I haven't had any matches yet. I do worry about what I would do if I do match with someone and they live 2 hours or more away. How do you deal with that kind of interaction to see if I like them and want to commit to that distance to meet them. Any advice for me would be great, whether it be about my mindset or how to achieve what I think I want.

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I think the profile could be a lot better but others will give you feedback there. When it comes to this game thing I think you should approach it differently tbh. I think many guys will disagree with me but if you really want pure wholesome love from a women to where you could see marriage down the line I'd take what you learn from alex then use it in a sort of "simp with boundaries frame". By that I mean to express love to a girl willingly and freely (simp) but still being teasing and not accepting of bad behavior (boundaries). I say this because you seem like a guy who needs a really good girl (rare in america imo) and in my experience they respond very well to this dichotomy and you can sift out the horribly vile and toxic women lol; given you do it right ofc. And you just come off as a guy who would enjoy that. I don't think you would enjoy "taming brats" or "gaming your way through her horribly toxic traits just to fuck". I'm just going off your looks and vibe tho lol. I'm saying you look like a nice guy ill keep it real. But you can be a nice guy IF you have boundaries, tease, sense of humor, maybe be clever too, etc etc.

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All the things which @JenYu T said is gold for you
And i would also like to add that dating apps will not lead you to the girl which you want. Either you should do cold approach ( will take time) or you should join some course related to your hobby and try your luck their.

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I think he should do both. His odds are low on the dating apps imo (Nice guy look + lack of "good" girls nowadays) but its best to have as many avenues as possible and i think you'd be surprised by what you find given you put in the effort. You never know what might happen/who will pop into your life.

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