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How do you get better at opening and hooking girls in the nightclub? What are the main things you do in the first few mins of meeting her to get her to be attracted to you?
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I personally love indirect or accidental opens in night clubs. I am big on getting girls to chase. And when you start out with a direct open, with your intent known, you are starting off as the one chasing. Also there are likely other guys approaching these girls as well (especially if you're in Vegas, Sydney, etc.) so for me I think there's a unique advantage if you can open her without directly approaching her and build some attraction and value so that she chases or wants you to chase. Not a lot of guys do this and not how I've trained myself to do it. And you won't likely learn to do this. As for getting better at opening directly, I'd suggest not using the same recited opener over and over. If you can create an open that's based on the particular girl and situation, it's far better imo. That can be easier said than done. I know a lot of guys have trouble coming up with stuff on the spot and on the fly. But I think you should try. Even if you fuck up over and over. Even if you are loss for words. I think it's a skill you must learn. The best guys can freestyle. I bet it wasn't always like that for them. It wasn't for me. I always felt awkward af and often had no clue what to say. Sometimes just standing there awkwardly. But you gotta suffer and keep pushing. I think the biggest reason is that guys aren't comfortable and composed in those high pressure situations. One way to overcome them and put yourself in those situations over and over until it becomes normal. Be okay with rejections and fucking up. Be resilient. Another thing I started doing that helped a ton is troll the girl a bit. I just said whatever came to my head. One it was funny to me. And took some pressure off me. After some time the trolling turned into teasing and more playful. You begin to learn to calibrate over time. Especially the more experience you get.
How to hook? I am sure you've heard about it a million times in the Ultimate Man Project Facebook group, my favorite way to hook is using curiosity and open loops. When you're too mysterious and you pique her curiosity she can't simply walk away. If you open loop her, you buy a lot of time with her. You always create emotions in her that she likely won't have that night with other guys.
Main things I do the first few mins? First impression. Body language and tonality. Absolutely crucial in the first few minutes. You can have a great first impression without saying a word.