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What to Text a Girl who Stopped RespondingErik posted a month ago*
I’ve seen plenty of Men in the PWF forums asking questions such as...
How Do I Re Engage Her? How Do I Reopen Her!?
This is very simple & Alex did a video on this so I’ll link the video here What to Text a Girl who Stopped Responding (Use This To Get Her to Reply)
Along with a ”Cheat Sheet” I’ve written in wording.
Keep In Mind That Copying & Pasting Lines Is Not Effective so don’t take everything Verbatim instead take it with a grain of salt & learn from your own text mistakes, to keep continuing learning how to Open/Vibe/Banter/Screen/Qualifying the girl.
Here you’re just taking this approach in the early stages of the interaction.
Don't Take This Approach If You’re Trying To Make plans With Her & You Know She’s Purposelessly Ignoring You
Use the following as you see fit to your interaction
- ”Yo Sexy”
- “Hola Linda”
- “Ryan Gosling Memes”
- ”Are you always this talkative”
- ”Award for worst texter goes too”
Then start Vibing & Batering with her.
Build On Conversation
Here, you’re just Re Engaging her. If for example you’re trying to make plans with her & she leaves you on read.
You’ll give her a ”Gentle Non Needy Push” & it kindly covertly tells the women ”Hey, You Forgot To Answer Me”
Use the following as you see fit to your interaction
- ”Pick a night”
- “What’s you schedule like”
(if she ignores you follow up with)
- ”It’s not a trick question”
- “Don’t think too hard now”
Then from there, Close In A Smart Optimal Way.
This by far has to be my favorite from the above two Especially If The Girl Has Invested A lot In You & when girls have invested soo much in you, they become scares.
”Attention is the coin of the realm in girl-world.”
But here, you basically just made a push & she did not respond to it. So now you’re just literally taking what you said to her, away from her.
This is one huge mistake guys do. They get this Scarcity Mindset. They Double Text, Then They Triple Text & end up loosing the girl. Because they were just not patient & their Ego got in the way.
Use the following as you see fit to your interaction
- “Don't be shy”
- ”If that’s cool”
- ”If you’re too nervous, I’d understand”
- “If you’re into that sort of thing”
- “If you’re a little inexperienced, I’d understand”
An perfect example of this, would be you texting her something sexually aggressive...
- ”Like maybe... If I was to bend you over, grab a fistful of your hair, choke you, & slap that great ass”
She’ll see this text & if she’s a prude girl who’s not into that, she’ll leave you on read.
Then you do the “Takeaway”
- ”If you’re into that sort of thing”
I’d highly recommend reading this PWF article for a more detail breakdown How to Trigger People to Get What You Want (On Tinder)
DON’T JUST SKIM THROUGH IT. TAKE THE TIME TO ACTUALLY READ IT SO YOU CAN LEARN
This will usually be your last resort. You’ve literally tried everything such as
Takeaways, Been Persistent & she’s just not biting “Hook, Line, & Sinker.”
This should be done in an Non Needy way, where she doesn’t think you’re ”Butt Hurt” about her not meeting up with you.
Remember you’re a Man & you should be unfazed & be Spinning Other Plates & also be on your...
Mission, Purpose, & Succeeding, in life maximizing your SMV as much as possible.
Use the following as you see fit to your interaction
- “Are you always this difficult to make plans with”
- “I genuinely didn’t take you for the flakey type”
- "Take care, your lack of respect for my time is a turn off”
- “Look, I’m busy too. But I’m sure we could both find a few hours if we actually wanted to”
You’re calling out her bad behavior in a non needy aggressive way. Letting her know you’re not to be stepped all over like a doormat, & you have fucking ”Frame Control” in your life as a Masculine Man
I’ve been itching & wanting to write this post in regards, as when I see many Newcomers to the PWF just struggling & find themselves stuck in a sticky situation. As well, as this was the very first Valuable Supplemental Video to the PWF Online Dating Blueprint that I first watched on Alex’s YouTube channel.
Really hope everyone found this post of value & helps you fine tweak your sticking points. I’d really highly recommend all the new PWF guys download the Free Playing with Fire eBook to jumpstart your Online Dating Results Right Now.
Feel free to PM me as I enjoy helping other Men on here with their Text Game & genuinely like making new friends.
Keep on PWF 🔥🔥
Written With Love & Gratitude Erik Villalobos
6 Suprising Lessons I learned as an Intermediate PWF studentAaron posted a year ago*
So, I've been a student of the Playing with Fire community for nearly a year now. I've been even more fortunate to also receive 1:1 coaching from some of the best guys in this community, including my mentor Indian PE and even on occasion Alex and David themselves.
In all that time, I've learned a LOT. When I discovered PWF, I had no idea what I was doing (very much a beginner). Now, I see somewhat consistent results (intermediate). I'm even able to help out fellow community members.
In this post, I wanted to share some of the top lessons I've learned during my time here. If you can internalize these lessons, you'll be able to see a huge and quick jump in the results of your online dating.
1. Double texts are often a death sentence.
This is one of the most common mistakes I see in the Mastermind, even with guys who have been in the community a long time. When I'm talking about double texts, by the way, I mean sending more than one text in short succession. Double texting 24-48 hours after receiving no response is a totally different strategy, one that can be effective when employed correctly.
I suspect there is one main reason why guys are so tempted to double text. After hitting 'send', guys start analyzing and worrying about the messages they sent. They do this to the point where they overthink it. And so they double text in an effort to recover in some fashion.
And yes, they may have sent a suboptimal text. But, the attempt to recover comes off as low value, lacking options with women (abundance), or otherwise super lame. And so these second texts end up hurting, rather than helping.
99% of the time it's better to be stuck with a single suboptimal message than it is to double text her.
So, the next time you're tempted to double text, don't! Leave your single message, and give her at least 24-48 hours to respond before you send another text.
2. Your texts don't always have to make perfect logical sense.
I'm not talking about ridiculous, gamey, or silly messages here. Instead, and similar to #1, I often find that guys way overanalyze messages, often worrying about ridiculous scenarios they've invented in their heads that are highly unlikely to unfold.
Keep in mind, men are the logical gender. We men say what we mean, and we mean what we say. Women are much more driven by emotions. For women, they communicate a lot more using subcommunication. In other words, the subtext of what you say matters much more than what you actually say.
As a specific example, one of Alex's most preferred replies to "How are you?" is, "Good, just finished a killer workout. Looking nice and jacked for our date".
This line is packed with value. First, it replies to her question. Second, it shows her value by saying that you workout. Third, it baits her with the idea of a date -- which she may hook onto.
But when I suggest this, I sometimes hear from guys in the community, "It's 1 PM, and I'm at work. I can't send that!" or "It's 12 AM, she obviously won't believe it."
A similar one is, "I'm awesome! Having a glass of wine on my romantic patio" (credit Indian PE). But a guy worries about this because "It's raining today" or "It's too cold to be on your patio".
This is where men's logic and tendency to overthink is to their detriment. Odds are, girls aren't going to say anything about this. You, as a man, focus on the logic of these statements. The girl focuses on the emotions she's feeling from all the value that's packed into it.
3. Calibrate your messaging, particularly the valuable things you display about yourself to the woman, based on the kind of girl she is.
With online dating, she will determine you to have some level of initial value to her. She bases this on your looks and what she's able to discern from your pictures and bio. Then, you spark further attraction in her by showing her that you are high value. You show value through what you communicate and tell about yourself.
Having "good text game" is core to this, but of course, learning text game is something that happens over time. The other part is telling and showing her areas of value from your life. This is sometimes referred to as "displaying higher value" or "DHVing".
One frequent mistake I see guys make is showing the same areas of value with every single woman. Instead, you need to think about what type of woman the girl is, based on her photos and bio.
Here are two archetypes of women to help solidify this concept this for you:
A hard-working professional woman who is career-oriented.
Good way to display value: Telling her about how you had a recent meeting with the CEO and board of directors of your company.
Bad way to display value: Telling her about all the parties you've been going to lately and how you've been staying out every night until 5 AM.
A college girl who's into music festivals and partying.
Good way to display value: Telling her about a DJ you dated and the crazy parties you are now able to get VIP access to.
Bad way to display value: Telling her about your career and ambitions.
4. You can build attraction (and more) over text.
An old mantra I used to hear from dating coaches was that you could never attract a girl over text messages. That texting was a mechanism for setting up dates and logistics, but nothing more.
Playing with Fire totally flipped this for me. I've seen Alex and David do crazy things over text messaging that shocked me. One amazing example of this is how you can trigger women to get what you want.
By subtly showing your value over texts, which includes the way you text her (again, "text game"), you can -- and will -- get women attracted to you. And from there, you can get her invested in you and even compliant with you.
5. Persistence is not the same as neediness.
One of the biggest things you hear as you study dating / seduction is to "never be needy." And yes, this is true -- once you come across as needy, a woman will immediately lose all attraction for you.
But, this mindset led to a lot of false limiting beliefs for me. Examples of things I believed included:
- Once a girl flaked on you for a date, you should stop pursuing her.
- If a girl stopped responding, you were chasing her and being needy if you kept trying to text her.
- If a girl wasn't showing interest, you were chasing her and being needy if you kept trying to text her.
Yet, Playing with Fire has shown that persistence is not the same as neediness. After all, women have a lot going on in their lives, too. Many already have one or more men in their lives in some fashion. Plus, every woman has lots of other guys messaging them online. Most of the time, you aren't a priority for them until you've had sex at least once or twice. This is why it's crucial to be persistent, because women can and will forget about you. Indeed, there are many love reports on this site showing how ridiculous persistence can turn into sex.
Since discovering PWF, I've had women say that the only reason they met was my persistence. I even had one compliment my persistence after we had sex!
Ok then, what's the difference between persistence and neediness? Well, it's a bit hard to explain.
It comes down to your mindset in pursuing the girl (because women are shockingly adept at reading what's actually on your mind).
Not Needy: When you're persisting to meet with a woman, but your messages and texting indicate you don't really care whether you actually meet (showing "outcome independence" and "abundance").
Needy: When you're pushing to text and meet with a woman, and it's clear you really care about meeting her (such as coming across butthurt, or even just more invested in the meetup than she is).
6. Identifying your sticking points and making a few tweaks can transform your results!
As I've said before, women are overrun with attention with online dating. Any decent looking woman in a decently sized city will have tons of options. So, it's important to not only stand out, but to avoid making basic mistakes.
The Free Playing with Fire eBook shares all of the introductory knowledge you need to nail down the fundamentals and stop making the worst mistakes. It's a great way to jumpstart your online dating results and start having sex with the women you desire.
And if you are ready to truly transform your results, the Full Playing with Fire Online Dating Blueprint is the most exhaustive guide to online dating out there. It contains 10 in-depth modules plus numerous bonus modules. Plus, it includes a month of free access to the Mastermind coaching platform. Men who have purchased the product have literally gone from being virgins to sleeping with dozens of beautiful women in a single year.
Bonus Lesson: Copying and pasting lines is not effective.
I see so many guys who just copy and paste lines that they see others use. Then when they post their full conversation, it either makes no sense or simply isn't congruent. You can read it and tell that it reads like multiple different guys are texting her!
Instead, the key is to learn the ideas behind the different canned messages you see used.
With some experience under my belt now, I start to see patterns in conversations that recur. Some of these patterns happen a lot (when she asks "How's your day going?"), and some happen less often.
But by understanding the ideas behind messages, you'll be in a strong position when you see a pattern repeat. You either use the canned line (if it makes sense), or you can use the concept from that line to develop your own that fits better.
So as you look at lines that Alex, David, Indian PE, and others use, ask yourself some questions:
- What was the girl communicating before he sent this line? (Again, women communicate much more subtly than men. So what she says may not be what she actually means. Try to understand the subtext of her message.)
- What things does this line communicate?
- Why does this line make sense here?
- What is this line meant to accomplish?
- What are the possible responses you could get to this line? How would you respond to each of those responses?
If you focus on breaking down the meaning of messages, rather than just copying and pasting, you'll be able to learn so much faster.
Success storiesIke posted 6 months ago
Since joining PWF a couple of weeks ago, I understand (online) game a lot better. A lot of valuable content on here!
But I notice a small gap in practical application. The lay reports show a lot of good info, but it seems most of the time there is already pretty good response/investment from the start. In combination with the skills of the PWF men, it can feel like a big gap. Where we start as rookies and where they are already.
I think it would be very beneficial if the guys on here would share some stories about how they turned around their game. Some before and after text game screenshots, the mental aspect of it etc.
Now we just need YOU to break the ice and post YOUR succes story in this thread!
SPECIAL EVENT: Live Masterclass and Q&A w/The World's Top Pickup Coaches (Saturday 9pm EST)avilench posted 3 days ago*
We are organizing a special event this Saturday at 9pm EST. We are gonna have all the top coaches in the game together to do a live masterclass and Q&A
Featuring: John Anthony Lifestyle (JMULV), Andrew Mioch from SQL (Sexual Quantum Leap), Gabriel Grey from Surgical Pickup, & Denton from Karisma King. And of course, myself.
Topics to be discussed include: Online Dating, Cold Approach, Text Game, Travel, Being a Coach, etc. As always, nothing is off limits. Don't miss this - be sure to join us live!
Combating Needy feelingsJon posted 15 hours ago
What do you guys do when you start feeling needy and feel like you've lost "the touch" so to speak? As in at one point your text game was strong and then you start feeling needy all of a sudden and you don't know how to carry a conversation because you are too outcome-focused
Russian tinder girlGerald posted 4 hours ago
Sorry for the multiple posts, but this just makes no sense and it’s just typical that girls play games like this. I rebounded from her shit test well and then she tells me “guess you’ll have to find out”. So I say shoot me your number because that seems like she wants to hang. She then sends this: how do I respond? Thank you everyone for help.
Time ConstraintTerrence posted 2 days ago
I have a date tomorrow at 11AM and she has to see the doctor at 1PM. I am going to her area because she said it was too far to come my area.
So I only have a 2 hour window to meet her. Should I try close her within 2 hours or leave it for 2nd date? Or try to meet her again the same day after her doctor's appointment if I am still in the area?
Feedback on photo shootTrey posted 5 days ago
I recently did a photoshoot and my buddy sent me a portion of the pictures we took, he's still editing the rest. I'd like to know what the general opinion is on these photos. Critique my poses, body language, and whatever else needs to be addressed. Appreciate it.
Didn't respondDiogo posted 2 days ago
So I ran into a girl that I met in high-school we were talking and flirting, she said that she needed to go and give me her number to text her about a thing we were talking.
We were texting I said "Hmm 3 years you are still the same ahah", she said that she had change a lot I said "Hmm I need to see that" and she didn't replay, it's been a day
How to get fancy college frame on tinder?james posted a day ago
Anyone has this frame on their tinder? lmk what you did if so, thanks
This question is for anyone that is, or has been on TRT...Mis posted 7 days ago
I assume you all talked to an endocrinologist before starting TRT.
As such, being that testosterone can fluctuate throughout the day, how were you able to get a good blood test for t-levels without having to go to the lab 4 times in one day to get a summarized result?
is going for the close at my place a turn off?Alex posted 2 days ago
i'm probably not screening properly, but i feel like a lot of girls get turned off by the fact i invite them over for a first date. seems like getting that non compliance makes getting a date in public harder because she labels you as a fuckboy. am i wrong? what if i'm missing out on my next girlfriend by going for "the lay" so quick
What's the approach to flip this?Chad posted 2 days ago
Number closed this girl off of Hinge. Kept a fun and flirty vibe, with investment sprinkled in. Agreed to have a phone date before the meetup, had to push it back due to some life things going on, and she flipped after my time pushback proposal. Her last message makes claims that are clearly proven false in the screenshots of our conversations. Curious how to persist and flip this.
Tinder Gold & SwipingAnonimas posted 2 days ago
Hey guys, I have a few questions for y'all.
Gold lets you see girls that swiped right on you. But in order to get more matches, you still need to swipe a lot, aren't you?
Also, when you reset your account with a new phone number and email, do you need to add another credit card in order to get a proper reset, if you plan to buy Gold and have bought stuff from Tinder before with old account?
As always, thanks!